I’m about to suggest something that might seem a little counterintuitive … but it’s actually pretty amazing advice (I’m not taking credit for it).
There are times in life when we really feel the stress – whether it’s everyday stress because of hectic schedules, etc., or because of job changes, life changes, or even changes in our health.
Stress can make us feel overwhelmed and out of control, and it can even feed on itself, making it worse!
Ready for the advice?
One of the best things you can do when you’re stressed is to set a goal. And if you are apart of my Facebook Group @ApotheKelly Wellness Warriors, you will know that I talk about goals. a lot.
OK, so you might be wondering why it’s a good idea to add another thing to your to-do list when you’re already feeling stressed. Legit question.
Having a goal actually narrows down your focus, and helps give you a sense of purpose. Both of those factors can actually cut back on your stress.
I’m giving credit for this nugget to Dr. Ann Webster, a health psychologist who was quoted in the Harvard Health letter.
“When people set goals for themselves, they have a positive sense of commitment, feel they’re in control, and are optimistic,” says Dr. Webster.
One of the things I like about having specific goals is that they help block out distractions.
For instance, if I’m working toward three strength workouts a week this month, that means I’ve got to put them in my calendar. And that might mean I let go of a commitment that isn’t so important to my goal.
EVERYTHING I DO, EVERY DECISION I MAKE I ask myself “Does this support my goal xyz?” and if the answer is “no” I feel no regret saying “no” to that commitment.
Dr. Webster thinks it’s a good idea to have goals for your health, career, relationships, creativity and even for recreation/fun. (I call this your Primary Food.)
That’s a lot of goals to work toward at the same time, so you might want to mix and match to suit your time and interests. I’m a fan of having just 1-2 goals at the same time.
That being said, if you’re in the middle of a busy season at work, it might not be the best time to decide to go full steam ahead into training for a marathon. But it might be the perfect time to lay a stronger cardio fitness base so that when your schedule DOES ease up, you are ready to tackle the training.
Having that strong sense of purpose will pull you through your stressful time and make it seem a lot less daunting.
Here’s another example…
Let’s say you have a goal of preparing your meals ahead of time this month. You do this because you want to eat healthier, lose a little weight, and save a little money.
When you focus on getting this done, you’ll be amazed at how much space this frees up in your life!
You’ll save time, eliminate the daily “what’s for dinner?” question, and also spend a LOT less time and money at the grocery store. It’s amazing how much mental space you can clear when your meals are already prepared!
And if you’re going through an extra tough time right now, consider setting a really exciting goal…it could even be life changing! because it can be incredibly energizing and help you take your focus off some of the other things going on.
My husband and I had a goal to live in the mountains since the inception of our relationship. We met in DC, but would often talk about moving to Colorado. And then once we moved to Colorado we wanted to move to the mountains. It wasn’t a dream, that means it may or may not happen. It was a goal and we knew it would happen; we just didn’t know how. Or when. Or where.
Here we are, 13 years later and I’m sitting here writing this surrounded by 14,000 ft. peaks and the sound of roosters and running water in the background (and it’s because of a creek, not a leaky faucet.)
When times were tough, it gave us hope. It gave us (ok, me) something to focus on and plan and brainstorm and Pin all of these fantastic and unrealistic ideas. And we kept marching down that path because we knew what the end goal was.
Goals keep our minds occupied and positive and are surprisingly great stress relievers.
And I am always here to help!
I can help you set meaningful goals … and help you create a step-by-step plan to achieve them! I only have 3 more spots open next week for my personal goal-setting workshop. Click >>>HERE<<< and email me with the message “Help me Set my goals” and I’ll get you on the list asap!
Here’s to S.M.A.R.T Goals!
Kelly @ ApotheKelly Wellness